Planning a wedding is a serious task and can be stressful. Like any other weddings, planning a Gay wedding has it’s special considerations.
Here are some things you might want to consider in planning for a Gay Wedding:
Whether the couple is made of two men or two women, there are choices well beyond the traditional for everyone. Some women choose to wear matching or complimentary dresses or suits while others have one woman in a dress and the other in a tux. Men can also opt for matching or complimentary tuxedos or suits and, of course, there are always couples who opt to depart from the traditional look entirely.
If you have a theme for your wedding, choose outfits that fit in and, if not, simply choose clothes you’re comfortable in and that make you feel good to wear. That can mean just about anything depending on the person, so sit down as a couple to discuss what works for you both.
Innovative designers have been making toppers that go beyond the traditional bride and groom for years so it’s pretty easy for LGBT couples to find something that suits them. There are options for brides and grooms of course, but also for couples who don’t even want to bring gender into play. There are options where the happy couple is represented with animals, garden pairings, robots or typographically.
Another issue for any wedding is, of course, seating arrangements. For a same-sex couple, this may mean taking into account the political, religious and personal views of their guests. Many same-sex couples find they have a diverse set of friends and family so seating arrangements can be a challenge.
These days, a lot of couples don’t want to separate their friends and family based on who knows who and, in an LGBT wedding, it just doesn’t make sense. So place a sign at the entrance letting guests know there aren’t any sides to choose here, it’s all about coming together.
Speaking of customizing your service, it’s also important to consider your wedding procession and the wedding party, if you choose to have one. There’s nothing wrong with carrying on the traditional option of each person having their own party (Best Man, Maid of Honor, Bridesmaids, Groomsmen, etc) or sharing a single party or even doing away with it all together.
With or without a wedding party, you each still need to walk down the aisle. This can be done together to show your union right from the start or you can come in separately. Again, this is a personal choice and there’s really no wrong way to do it. Some couples want to be given away by their parents or other meaningful adult while others choose to make the walk arm in arm.
Let’s not candy coat this – there are some couples who approach their wedding day with a bit of anger. LGBT couples have been denied the right to legally marry for years which means there are couples who have been together for a long time and who are either just now getting the chance to make it “official” or who have gone through marriages or civil unions in the past only to have them struck down by the courts before this summer’s landmark SCOTUS ruling. For these couples, there’s a mix of happiness, relief and, yes, a little chip on the shoulder as they walk down the aisle. Don’t be afraid to acknowledge this feeling if you and your partner have been fighting for this for a long time. Put a new spin on the Just Married t-shirt look by crossing out the Just and substituting “Still”.
Final word: Wedding is a celebration of love and union. It should not be defined by gender. Enjoy your wedding and the rest of your life together!