Are you ready to tie the knot? Are you ready to propose? Wondering whether you’re really ready to get married or not?
Here are ways to be sure you’re ready for marriage:
Despite your undying love and devotion, money does matter to some extent. You don’t have to be incredibly wealthy, but you should be in a spot where you can provide for yourself and possibly for a family. Financial disaster is one of the biggest causes of divorce. No ideal time exists, but discuss your finances beforehand.
You’re tired of the club scene, you’ve reached personal goals, and your mindset is on marriage life, not single life. If you’re not there yet, there is no judgment. Every guy has a need to reach his accomplishments and goals. He has to prove himself as a man first. Some guys need to live life before he’s ready, and it’s okay.
Have you talked about your plans for your next vacation, and your plans together 10 years from now? If you and your partner speak naturally and sincerely about your future together (even if you’re not sure where you’ll be or what you’ll be doing), that sort of confidence bodes well for your path together. Even if you don’t talk about marriage early on, you can gradually build up to it as your relationship grows.
Everyone has ambitions, but make sure your aspirations don’t conflict with those of your partner. If you plan to spend all of your savings to start your own business in five years or, better yet, plan on spending a few months traveling and working abroad, your partner should know about that before you ask them to marry you.
Chances are you’ve dated someone whom your friends didn’t like much. Regardless of the root of the issue, a relationship becomes tough when your friends don’t want anything to do with your significant other. Animosity between friends and your future spouse can be a definite red flag, but on the other hand, if your friends have given them a resounding thumbs-up, you can rest easy knowing you won’t have to spend your life choosing between them.
Should you ask her father for her hand in marriage? Though some exceptions might be on the table, and traditions are going away, having her family blessing is a matter of respect. Even if relations are strained, family is constant, so don’t alienate yourself by not discussing marriage beforehand with her parents. You’re still marrying into a family regardless if she’s on great speaking terms with them.
This may seem obvious, but if you feel the chance of your partner accepting your proposal is iffy, it’s probably not the right time to ask. If the ups and downs of your relationship are too many to count, don’t try to make things right by proposing. If you propose just because you want a quick fix, your partner might turn you down or—even worse—they might be blinded by the moment and accept your proposal only to doubt their decision later on. Propose when you know you’re both on the same page about spending your lives together, not when you’re trying to salvage your relationship.
If you consider all these things, propose to her now!