Confused or conflicted over who should be part of your wedding entourage of your same-sex wedding? This is a pretty common dilemma. But “like all other wedding challenges for same-sex couples, the way you use the aisle can be a creative opportunity rather than an obstacle. While most traditional people might ask silly questions, you can ask a more meaningful question: What story are you telling — as individuals and as a couple, privately and publicly — by the way you enter the performance of your wedding?” And here’s how to figure it out.
Are there people in your lives who contributed to forging your couplehood? If so, perhaps you want them to walk with you as you enter, or sing as you present yourselves.
You can also buck tradition and enter the ceremony together. Get ahead of short-sighted guests who fear change by making it obvious what is happening and how they should participate. If your entrance tells your story — for example, the two of you entering at the same time via two separate aisles to a pre-recording of the two of you actually narrating your story — no one should be confused about when to stand, or how to react. You are in charge of the storytelling.
You can have 2 maids of honor or 2 best mans. Be creative. It’s your wedding and you don’t need to follow tradition.
Be stationed at the front when your guests arrive. Or consider borrowing from Jewish wedding traditions, in which both sets of parents walk each spouse down the aisle, presenting them to each other. You can do something similar, choosing whomever you would like to present you to your partner and to your guests, symbolizing independence becoming interdependence and a joining of tribes.”
Finally, once you’ve figured out who will walk the aisle and how, “rehearse, rehearse, rehearse, and as you do, consider if anything feels awkward or uncomfortable about it. If so, make any adjustments you need to make until your arrival feels relaxed, fun, meaningful, exciting, and fun.
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