There are common wedding guests complaints that you need to consider. Though your wedding is all about you as a couple celebrating your marriage, it is also a celebration you share with your wedding guests: family, friends, and colleagues. Guests may have a bad wedding experience that makes their memory of the event seriously tainted. It’s important to keep your guests comfortable, happy and entertained because although it’s your big day, they’re there to witness it and celebrate it with you.
We all know the saying “You can’t please everyone”! While that may be true, these types of guest criticisms are easily avoided by careful planning — and addressing them now will make everyone’s memories of your wedding day so much nicer.
Here are some wedding guests complaints below.
The music was TOO LOUD!
Move tables and chairs away from speakers and seat older guests further from the sound equipment.
There are way too long and too many Speeches!
Keep speeches under five minutes. Ideally, they should last between two and five minutes. Let the toastees know in advance that you don’t want them to stress about writing a novel of a speech, so the cheat sheet version will do just fine. Your DJ can signal a musical cue if it’s time to wrap things up, just like the Oscars.
We didn’t know anyone at our table.
Take the time to carefully plan your seating arrangement, placing guests at tables with others they know. They don’t have to be fast friends, just acquaintances or people with some kind of connection. Try to seat out-of-town guests, who aren’t likely to know anyone, with others having similar interests.
There is nothing more frustrating than when a guest assumes they’re receiving a plus-one you had no intention of inviting. Don’t dodge the question—it will only make things more awkward. I’d recommend addressing the miscommunication kindly. Please don’t tell someone who thought their children could come that you “can’t have them there because weddings with kids are tacky” (true story). Avoid confusion by writing the names of the guests you want to invite on the response card and having them check off a “will attend” or “will not attend” box.
The bride and groom didn’t stop by to say hello.
Make the rounds of guest tables at your reception, but don’t spend too much time at each. A quick greeting, thank you or compliment will suffice.
The centerpiece was too large.
Your guests couldn’t see or talk to others seated across the table. Smaller, shorter arrangements are best. Your centerpiece shouldn’t be the center of attention (or main topic of conversation) at the table.
The food isn’t great or lack thereof.
Why would you bother spending thousands of your flowers if your food is going to taste just okay? We want a delicious meal way more than we want pretty centerpieces. If it’s not as good as something we’d have at a restaurant, we’re going to be disappointed. Even if the food is tasty, don’t make us go hungry.
No bride wants to give her guests a stomachache—arrange for a food tasting before you carefully plan your menu. Not even spectacular décor can compensate for rubbery chicken or blink-and-you’ll-miss-it shrimp. Ask about food allergies or dietary requirements ahead of time. It’s also important to make sure they don’t run out of food at the cocktail hour. If you’re only having dessert or some light nibbles, that’s fine, but please mention it to your guests (especially if you’re having the party at mealtime).
I was offended that I had to pay for drinks.
Open bars are the accepted norm. If your budget is tight, offer wine and beer only — or limit drink choices to ‘call’ brands. You can also close the bar during the dinner hour to save on costs. An emerging trend is to create a ‘signature’ drink and offer it along with beer & wine only.
I was never thanked for my gift!
No matter how tempting it is to scrap the thank-you cards (who has the hand stamina for that?) guests WILL notice if you don’t send one. Split the duties with your husband and break it up into manageable chunks so that it doesn’t seem so overwhelming anymore.
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